Confidence isn’t only required if you want to be a great public speaker.

Aside from verbal communication, non-verbal communication also plays a key role in building confidence. Your handshake, the way you establish eye contact, and even the way you stand is a big contributing factor to how people view you as a person.

You do things you don’t normally do when you get nervous or anxious. This could include fidgeting, clasping of the fists, or scratching your nose. Likewise, there are also actions that may indicate negative impressions, like putting your hands on your hips or crossing your arms. These actions, usually done unknowingly, can give other people a negative impression of you.

People can Easily Tell if You are Confident

Your actions speak a lot about your confidence. Most of the time, people can easily sense a person’s confidence just by looking at his eyes, hands and shoulders. Your actions will show others what you truly feel, even before you say a word.

Building confidence should not be limited to the way you speak. In fact, it should start with the way you handle your own body.

Confidence makes a person think he is competent, and this translates to his actions. A confident leader is able to manager his people and business. The people working with him also trust his abilities.

Here’s How You can Exude Confidence with Your Body Language

The Head and the Eyes

Keeping the head up high and the shoulders back gives the impression that a person stands tall and confident about his status. Building confidence also includes the movement of one’s eyes. Making eye contact establishes sincerity and trustworthiness, especially during conversations. When entering a room, look intently at the people around you before taking a seat or resuming your duties.

Hands and Arms

Arms and hands should always be kept open to give an impression that you are open and friendly. It might seem natural to cross your arms, but it would look like you’re guarding or defending yourself. Illustration by way of hand gestures is also welcome, and can be a good way of building confidence during conversations or public speaking.

Taking the initiative for a handshake is a strong indication that you’re not afraid to move forward. Likewise, a firm grasp would mean that you’re serious about things.

Legs and Feet


Crossing your legs while sitting down is acceptable, but this doesn’t look good if your arms are crossed, too. This gives people the impression that you are not interested with the conversation anymore.

Crossing your legs when you’re already standing makes you look either fidgety or guarded. It might also look like you need to go to the bathroom! Definitely not a good thing to show others.

Keep both feet planted on the ground, slightly apart, but refrain from shifting your weight from one foot to another.

With the right body language under your sleeve, it would be easier to stand tall and be confident whatever situation you face.

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Paul Bailey

Paul is a highly experienced Business Coach, Mentor and Personal Development Specialist. He works with people to enhance business and personal performance through a process of supported self-awareness and self- development. Paul is the Co-Author of the book 80 Tips.