How to reframe negative thoughts into positive thoughts

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The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.

One of the most challenging times for a lot of my clients is when they have to deal with groups of people. Whether that’s a social or business affair, it strikes fear into the hearts of many. So many negative thoughts and emotions bubble up to the surface.

Often this is a self-fulling prophecy, meaning that you set yourself up to not enjoy something, so you brace yourself to have a miserable time, and you do, and it re-enforces this belief that these types of situations are always going to bring you down.

You can’t change the situation, you might be able to avoid them sometimes, but ultimately the only real action you can take is to change your perspective on the situation.

Try this: What is the BEST thing that could happen during this event? Really think what would make it fantastic! It’s not going to be realistic, we’re just exercising your imagination here.

Then: What’s the WORST thing that could happen? We’re not just talking about being uncomfortable, but a really, rip, roaring HORRIBLE time.

Finally: What would make it OK? If you go to this event and found something useful, or spoke to someone interesting. What would need to happen to make the experience ‘good enough’?

Post in the comments below, what would be ‘good enough’ for you?

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Paul Bailey

Paul is a highly experienced Business Coach, Mentor and Personal Development Specialist. He works with people to enhance business and personal performance through a process of supported self-awareness and self- development. Paul is the Co-Author of the book 80 Tips.